The Physical Symptoms of Grief
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Many people don’t realize the physical impact of grief on the body. The emotions experienced are uncomfortable, yet expected. Of course, I am going to be sad! Yet, it is the physical symptoms of grief that can be alarming and distressing to deal with. It can be helpful to know that these symptoms are all a normal part of the grief process.
Pain in the Chest
In my work as a grief therapist, one of the common things I have heard immediately following a death of a loved one is the feeling of pressure in the chest area or a feeling of something being stuck in the throat. This uncomfortable sensation can be incredibly troublesome and causes significant distress. People often refer to this as a “broken heart.” It is always recommended to consult with your physician and rule out anything more serious going on. But once a person knows that this is a physical manifestation of grief, it can take away some of the worry and concern that may be associated with it.
Overwhelming Fatigue
This is more than tired. The physical exhaustion that comes with grief can be crushing. After the loss of a loved one, every task from making dinner to opening the mail can feel like too much to handle. Just putting one foot in front of another and getting through the day can be all you’ve got the energy for. Many people place unrealistic expectations on themselves. Be easy on yourself and allow time for rest. It’s okay to take a nap. Your world has been turned upside down. Resist putting negative judgment on your body’s need to slow down.
Difficulty Sleeping
It doesn’t help that grief is often associated with sleep disturbances. Night time can be especially challenging for people struggling with grief. The quiet and still of the night can be incredibly lonely and at the same time, thought-provoking. This is often a time when worry and rumination sets in. All of the “what-ifs” and “should haves.” Or maybe it’s just the intensity of missing your loved one. Some people find relief in starting a journal. Getting all your thoughts on paper or your device can be cathartic. Another option are the many guided sleep meditations available on YouTube. Finding the right one with a voice that is comforting can help quiet the mind and induce sleep.
Difficulty Concentrating and Forgetfulness
This is not the time to take on a new job or project. Many individuals I’ve worked with have talked about the constant losing of keys and misplacing of items. Most often reported is walking into a room and having no idea why you’re in there. There are so many feelings and emotions to process after losing a loved one. The brain is working overtime to keep it all together. Allow space for this by giving yourself extra time to finish tasks. Set up apps to help remember important events and make as many lists as you need to. Remember to have patience with yourself.
Aches and Pains
People experiencing grief often report physical pain in their body; from stomach aches and headaches to back pain and stiffness. The combination of fatigue, lack of sleep, and stress can be too much for the body. It is important to remember to take care of yourself. Ask for help when you need it. Take time to schedule doctor appointments. Get a massage. Make self-care a priority.
